Throughout my life, friends were always an unintentional byproduct. I would bump into someone at a few parties, spend a few days living with them, or take a common class, and all of a sudden I had made a new “friend”. In times of loneliness, my panacea was to go out more, cross my fingers, and hope I would get carried by the current into making more friends. That was as far as my intentionality went; I gave no thought to alternative approaches.